Sometimes, I have an uncanny feeling for something that I did (or didn’t), for something that I have (or haven’t). I feel like an alien, someone who’s different, or unique. Some of my irrational behaviors, insecurities, mistakes, and lack of skills, make me feel ashamed, inferior, powerless, and embarrassed.

You know that time you can’t do a thing properly (properly for you because in someone else’s mind it’s fine). Your inner voice saying: “you should do it this way”, “you should try that out “, “you have to pay attention to that”, “this mistake again?”, “Oh my goodness you’re terrible at it.” All of this inner talk hurts you, and most of the time you’re beating yourself up unnecessarily.

Oftentimes, we think that the dark side is exclusive to us, that only we feel it. But remember: you’re not alone. You’re not the only one who struggles with that. When I say this, take it to heart.

Paying close attention to friends’ complaints, fears, and mistakes, I notice that people also face similar problems like me. What differentiates us is the characters and the repertory. As sadness, disappointments, fears, are off-limits topics, we feel like the problem is just with us, but not, we’re all human beings, we all struggle. For sure, what you felt or did another person in the globe also felt or did.

When you forgive yourself for your mistakes and flaws you take the weight off your shoulders, you live a better life, and you move on.

Thinking that I’m a human begin, helps me to calm down my mind and makes me accept my imperfect nature.

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Shirley is an avid learner, interested in self-development, healthcare, and mindfulness. As an English learner, she spreads the word about her process of learning English, that it might help someone in their process.

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  1. Judith Yaneth Gamboa Reply

    Hey, Shirley. In the world we all face problems the different Is that these occur according to the look that each one has for this. For that reason, we have to reflect about these because every problem has Solution.

    As a human beings we’re not perfect because In the world nobody Is perfect for that reason we have to listen our inner mind when this is talking to us about our mistakes or fault and reflecting on this, if this Is for our grown apply it. Even thougs, we have an inperfect nature.

    Also, there are some moments that we face insecurity problems that question is for all and makes us think why this Is and why not all Time and these thougs don’t allow to be happy. Thanks for sharing us your comments and allow Is to reflect about this importat topic.

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