I was listening to the Podcast Psychologists off the clock interviewing Dr. Nedra Glover Tawwab expert in relationships and author of the book Set Boundaries Find Peace. Her great and enlightening interview stood out in my mind. Everything she said resonates with me. So, I thought to myself I need to read this book. Then I added it to my to-read list.
When I finished reading Limitless By Jim Kick, I wondered what to read next. Set boundaries Find peace was there on my list, however, I second-guessed reading it promptly because, in my mind, I was good at saying no, and I would miss out on other books that I would learn more about. Thankfully, I sneaked a peek at the introduction. In the very beginning, the author states that the most difficult area of setting boundaries is with family, it dawned on me that I have a hard time expressing my thoughts about delicate topics with some family members. So I decided to read it right away.
This book is about setting boundaries in all realms of life: family, work, romantic relationships, friendship, and technology.
In this book, you’re going to learn to keep healthy relationships, cope with unhealthy relationships, recognize when boundaries are needed, be aware of what might happen when you avoid setting boundaries and the common responses you might encounter setting them, and deal with these responses and its uncomfortable feelings (guilt, remorse, betray, and sadness), to communicate successfully your boundaries, and much more.
It’s an easy-going book. The language is clear and direct. For English learners, it’s the perfect book to start reading in English as the vocabulary is casual, without difficult and old-fashioned words.
If you are like me, who believes that setting boundaries is just about saying no: you’re wrong. Setting boundaries is much more than that. It’s about prioritizing your well-being for the benefit of yourself and consequently everyone around you. Once you’re clear about your purposes and thoughts, you let people know how the relationship will work well, and how it might nurture the relationship.
At the end of the book, there’s a self-assessment quiz where the author names boundaries into three categories: Healthy, Porous, and Rigid. I became quite surprised that 25% of my boundaries are rigid, regarding work and technology. In my mind, these were healthy boundaries, not rigid. haha 😅 I don’t think to change them, though. I’m okay with these boundaries I settled. The other is 75% healthy boundaries. 🙂
I’m dying to see this book in Portuguese, my native language. Because I want everyone that I care about to learn the wisdom from this book. I’m sure that they could change their lives for good, for the better, with such enriching knowledge.
I believe that everyone on the Earth should read this book. It’s a game-changing book. You will feel empowered to stand up for yourself after reading this book because you’ll be sure that it’s a good way to avoid suffering and more problems in the future.
I’m looking forward to hearing from you. Did you become curious about this book? Do you plan to read it? Please, let a comment below with our impressions of this book.
