Throughout our lives, we dream about having that great job, career, house, car, or trip. But what to do when life changes its path and we realize that it’s not worth pursuing that dream anymore? Is it frustrating or fine?
Some dreams come with the desire to live a better life, others come from the desire to change the present. So, you put the dream in mind and pursue it fervently. What depends on you, you do it (y’know, sometimes our dreams rely on external circumstances, completely out of our hands.)
I started to pursue the “career of my dreams” because I hated job interviews. I was bad at interviews. When the job application had stages I’d pass all of them, unless the “blessed interview.” I don’t know whether the other candidates were better than I was, or I was so nervous that I couldn’t show my value or my answers didn’t convince the interviewer.
So, this hardship made me study a lot to apply for a public job. In Brazil, to be a public servant is a good deal (at least for me. I believe some of my colleagues don’t agree with me on that), as you can live with dignity. You have two certainties: you’ll never be rich, and never succumb to hunger. 😅
My dream was to work in a court (It’s the topmost public servant career for me.) I buckled down and studied very hard for 4 years. I did my best. I could be among the approved candidates, but not enough to take the place. It’s a heightened competition.
While I was gearing up for the court career, another public servant job application showed up. I was about to apply for a public job at university. This application was specific for my degree. It means that I would work in the area that I’m a specialist in, and I will compete with other people just like me, not people in general. So, I took it and passed it. After that, I kept my studies for the court to no avail.
After two years working at university, I realized that I was happy, that I didn’t need to try at all costs to keep that dream of working in a court alive. At that time my life changed as well, I got married, and working in a court would imply living far away from my hometown.
From time to time I catch myself wondering if it’s bad to give up on a dream when you realize that circumstances have changed and that dream doesn’t fit your life anymore. God knows best. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be.
The most important thing: I’m happy doing what I’m doing. 🙂
Please let me know in the comments below. Do you believe that pursue a dream because you have invested time (maybe money as well) for a while you should chase it until you reach your goal, even when you don’t feel like doing that anymore?
Thanks for reading.
See you around.
